| Location | Leeds |
| Age | 16 days |
| Cause of Death | Undisclosed |
| Date of Birth | 03/01/2008 |
| Date of Death | 19/01/2008 |
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Alistair's Uncle Chris is doing a tandem parachute jump to raise money for the SANDS charity in the
memory of Alistair on 29th October this year. Any support would be very much appreciated.
http://www.justgiving.com/chriscook3
Thank you very much for all your support.
Alistair Robert Dale cook 3/1/08- 19/1/08 R.I.P darling
Alistair You were loved so very much by your mummy & daddy words can't even begin to explain how we
feel to have lost you. You touched our lives & our hearts & you will never ever be forgotten. you
gave us the best 16 days of our lives. you were a much loved Son, Grandson, Nephew & great-grandson
you touched your whole families live & will be forever missed Sweet dreams our darling baby Alistair
All our love forever & always Goodnight & God Bless love your Mummy & Daddy xxxxxxxx
Alistair Robert Dale Cook was born on Thursday 3rd January 2008. We knew we were having a baby boy &
had picked the name Alistair a few months before his middle names Robert was after his great-grandad
who got to see baby Alistair for the first time at his 80th birthday party (6/1/08) & Dale after my
brother Alistair's Uncle Dale. Alistair was due on 5th January & I was induced due to high blood
pressure & traces of protein in my water. Which i do think could be something to do with the death
of my son Alistair.
My pregnancy had being fine just a bit of morning sickness but nothing to worry about. Right up
until about 35 weeks at this point nothing seemed wrong but I was feeling quite dizzy & on Monday of
that week I phoned Ben to pick me up from work as I wasn't feeling well at all , when I got home I
rung the hospital number I had being given & spoke to a midwife. She was very helpful & as I was
going for an appointment to see my Midwife the next day I thought I may as well hang on as Alistair
was still very active & nothing seemed wrong. I just honestly thought it was me overdoing it. The
next day I was feeling a little better & went to see the midwife I explained the situation & as my
water sample was fine and my blood pressure hadn't changed, Alistair's heart beat & movements were
fine everything seemed ok. I decided it would be best for me to leave work a week earlier than I had
planned & try to rest as much as possible so I left work at 36 weeks instead of 37 I wanted to leave
work the latest I could so I would have more time at home afterwards. at 37 weeks the midwife did a
home visit to talk to us about labour when she measured me I was still measuring for 35 weeks my
blood pressure & water sample were fine she wanted to see me in 9 days time to make sure everything
was ok. At almost 39 weeks I went to see the midwife again my blood pressure was ok but she hadn't
checked my water sample. I was still measuring 35 weeks so she rang the hospital to see if they
could book an appointment for a growth scan. she couldn't get through so she rang me back when I got
home she managed to get an appointment for the ANDU for Wednesday 2nd January (In my opinion they
should of got me in a lot earlier) by now my water sample was showing Protein in it & my blood
pressure had now rocketed up to 143/106. Alistair was now being monitored & I was given cold orange
juice to get him moving. I was then told that my signs were looking towards pre-eclampsia & they
wanted me in for Induction of Labour that evening. I was given the gel in the evening & first thing
Thursday morning Alistair arrived at 1:06pm weighing 5 pounds 11oz (small we think due to him not
growing)
Alistair was fine when he was born, I stayed in hospital overnight due to high blood pressure as
they still needed to monitor me & we went home at 1:30pm the next day. Alistair was a happy baby &
everything seemed fine he had a bit of jaundice & a sticky eye but apart from that he was ok. Until
day 10 came & he got weighed (the first time he'd been weighed from birth) & he only weighed 4pounds
8oz he'd lost over 1 pound the midwife referred us to the doctors who reassured us everything was
fine but wanted to see him Friday. Friday came a day I was dreading as it was Ben's first day back
at work but no one could have prepared me for the events that would happen that day. Alistair woke
up about 8ish I had fed him & then changed him gave him a cuddle then put him in his mosses basket &
carried him downstairs & put the moses basket on the sofa. I went into the adjoining kitchen & was
washing up & making myself some breakfast. There was a knock on the door it was the midwife she had
come to weigh baby Alistair I took Alistair out of the moses basket, undressed him & passed him to
the midwife to put him on the scales he was still weighing 4 pounds 8oz. The midwife was concerned
so she passed Alistair back to me & rung the doctors to make an earlier appointment. As I was
dressing Alistair we both noticed that something wasn't right Alistair was Blue & finding it
difficult to breath & wasn't responding. The midwife called 999 & asked for an ambulance. Ben who
I’d left in bed as it was his first day back at work (Ben is a chef so he starts at 1:30 &
finishes late) Woke up to me screaming his name I told Ben to get dressed quickly & come downstairs
Ben got Alistair a blanket to keep him warm as he felt really cold & I passed Alistair to Ben & went
to get dressed myself. The midwife started doing CPR on Alistair he wasn't unconscious she just
wanted to help him breathe the ambulance came & they got Alistair into the ambulance & we got to A&E
there was a whole team waiting as the midwife had rung ahead. Alistair was finally made stable after
having 5 shots of adrenalin & was transferred to LGI PICU. They had taken lots of tests & at about
9:30 they took Alistair for a Brain Scan They took me & Ben into a room & told us that Alistair had
suffered severe Brain damage due to lack of oxygen & they gave him half a % chance of surviving they
then brought our parents in & Doctor gave us 2 choices we could turn off Alistair's machine & hope
for the best but the doctor though he would die within 24 hours or we could let him go with us
surrounded by the people who loved him so we decided we couldn't let him suffer any more so we got
all our families to come my mum drove a 3 & half hour round trip to get my Brothers & Sister & Ben's
dad did the same to get Ben's brother his Godparent's John, Emma & Matty came & we had Alistair
Baptised in Hospital & then everyone said there goodbyes & left the room Alistair was given a highly
dosed sedative & was taken off the machine & was left to go to sleep in the arms of his loving Mummy
& Daddy. Defiantly the worst day of all of our lives afterwards I cuddled Alistair for a few hours
also My mum & Ben's mum had a cuddle too me & my mum (Alistair's grandma) Painted Alistair’s hands
& feet & washed Alistair for the last time.
We have found out that Alistair died of a Pulmonary Herrorrhage (Bleeding in the lungs) but we are
still waiting to find out why this happened. They have now being sent to a specialist doctor in
Birmingham to try & find WHY this happened so hopefully in a couple of weeks we should know more.
Rest In Peace darling love you Always Mummy & Daddy xxxxxxxx
SPECIAL ANGEL ALISTAIR XXXX
ALISTAIR I HAVE JUST HAD THE PLEASURE OF LIGHTING YOUR 5,000 CANDLE,IT JUST SHOWS WHAT A SPECIAL LITTLE ANGEL YOU ARE, AND HOW MUCH YOU ARE LOVED AND MISSED.SLEEPTIGHT SWEET HEART AND WATCH OVER YOUR LOVED ONES.XXXXXX
I stood by your bed last night
I came to have a peep,
I could see that you were crying
and you found it hard to sleep,
I whispered to you softly
as you brushed away a tear,
its me I havn't left you, i'm well
i'm fine, i'm here,
I was close to you a breakfast
I watched you pour your tea,
you were thinking of the many times
your hands reached out to me,
I was with you at the shops today
you're arms were getting sore,
I longed to take your parcels
I wish I could do more,
I was with you at my grave today
you tend it with such care,
I want to reassure you, that i'm not
lying there,
I walked with you towards the house
as you fumbled for your key,
I gently put my hand on you
I smiled and said 'its me'
you looked so very tired
and sank into a chair,
I tried so hard to let you know
that I was standing there,
its possible for me to be
so near to you every day,
to say to you with certainty
I never went away,
you sat there very quietly then smiled
I think you knew,
in the stillness of the evening
I was very close to you,
now the day is over.....I smile
and watch you yawning,
and say good night, god bless,
i'll see you in the morning,
and when the time is right for you
to cross the brief divide,
i'll rush across to greet you
and we'll stand side by side,
I have so many things to show you
there is so much for you to see,
be patient, live your journey out
then come home to be with me.
thinking of you XxXxXxXxXxX
Oh Mother, my mother
I touch your tears
invisible fingers
soothing your skin
I know you think of me so often
in the day, in the night,
in your dreams
going into an empty nursery
knowing I'll never be there
but I am…in your heart
in your soul, I shall always be
for you gave so unselfishly
of yourself.
Inside of you, you created
such a world for me
a world of laughter, of love
of sadness, of sorrow
every emotion people come to know
you shared with me.
And even though I may never feel your arms around me
I felt your heart beating,
like a lullaby, singing me to sleep
and your spirit giving me a safe haven
already protecting me
nurturing me
preparing me of things to come.
But sometimes the journey
of life pulls souls apart
and yes, I had to go on
to another place.
I wish I could stay
I wish this was a decision
I could make
and I know you do too.
Know this wherever you are:
I will always remember
that yours was the first love
the first joy, the first soul
I will ever know
you gave me the courage to
go on my journey
I hope I can do the same
for you
Your heart beat will always
call me to you.
Love, your child
A Big Hug
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I MET YOU AS A STRANGER
I TOOK YOU AS A FRIEND.
I HOPE WE MEET IN HEAVEN
WHERE FRIENDSHIP NEVER ENDS.
Love always and thank you for your continued support. Luv Laura xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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You are my friend...And I hope you know that’s true...no matter what happens... I will stand by you... I will be there for you... when ever u need me... to lend a hand.... to do a good deed...so call on me....when ever you need me... I will always be there...Even to the bitter end...Send this promise to all your friends to show your friendship and watch who sends it back to you.
Christopher
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I MET YOU AS A STRANGER
I TOOK YOU AS A FRIEND.
I HOPE WE MEET IN HEAVEN
WHERE FRIENDSHIP NEVER ENDS.
Angela (Christopher-John Rowe) Mum
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Christopher
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I MET YOU AS A STRANGER
I TOOK YOU AS A FRIEND.
I HOPE WE MEET IN HEAVEN
WHERE FRIENDSHIP NEVER ENDS.
Angela (Christopher-John Rowe) Mum
Ask My Mum How She Is
My Mum, she tells a lot of lies,
She never did before.
But from now until she dies,
She'll tell a whole lot more.
Ask my Mum how she is
And because she can't explain,
She will tell a little lie
Because she can't describe the pain.
Ask my Mum how she is,
She'll say 'I'm alright.'
If that's the truth, then tell me,
why does she cry each night?
Ask my Mum how she is,
She seems to cope so well.
She didn't have a choice you see,
Nor the strength to yell.
Ask my Mum how she is,
'I'm fine, I'm well, I'm coping.'
For God's sake Mum, just tell the truth,
Just say your heart is broken.
She'll love me all her life,
I loved her all of mine.
But if you ask her how she is,
She'll lie and say she's fine.
I am Here in Heaven.
I cannot hug from here.
If she lies to you don't listen,
Hug her and hold her near.
On the day we meet again,
We'll smile and I'll be bold.
I'll say, 'You're lucky to get in here, Mum,
With all the lies you told.
~*~*~*~Love Always Elaine~*~*~*~
The true friends who we meet online
are a very special kind
They pierce your shields and see within
the corners of your mind.
They're always there when you're in need
with their power to discern.
They feel your pain.........they offer hope
and genuine concern.
We bare our souls, expose our hearts
and show our inner fears,
and then before you know it
the keyboard's stained with tears.
And if we could see them through that screen
then no one could deny
that to be a TRUE online friend
they too must surely cry.
Ali
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We little knew that morning
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
You did not go alone.
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.
You left us beautiful memories,
Your love is still our guide.
And though we cannot see you,
You are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken,
And nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
Always in our thoughts
Forever in our hearts
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Angela (Christopher-John Rowe) Mum
Angel Alastairxx
Sending love to you angel
Alastair, Mummy and daddy.
God blessxxx
Silent Child
Submitted by: cole06
Author: Kelly Lancor
My silent child
our precious baby,
Close to my heart
I'll keep you with me.
An important job
God has for you,
There is love to give,
and work to do.
He needs an angel
strong but small,
To shine light on many
and give love to all.
Before you go
I give you this,
half my heart
and one last kiss.
We'll miss you dearly
that we know,
But by God you were
chosen,
So to heaven, you must go
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