| Location | Leeds |
| Age | 16 days |
| Cause of Death | Undisclosed |
| Date of Birth | 03/01/2008 |
| Date of Death | 19/01/2008 |
| Visitors | 8,440 since 27/02/2008 |
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Alistair's Uncle Chris is doing a tandem parachute jump to raise money for the SANDS charity in the
memory of Alistair on 29th October this year. Any support would be very much appreciated.
http://www.justgiving.com/chriscook3
Thank you very much for all your support.
Alistair Robert Dale cook 3/1/08- 19/1/08 R.I.P darling
Alistair You were loved so very much by your mummy & daddy words can't even begin to explain how we
feel to have lost you. You touched our lives & our hearts & you will never ever be forgotten. you
gave us the best 16 days of our lives. you were a much loved Son, Grandson, Nephew & great-grandson
you touched your whole families live & will be forever missed Sweet dreams our darling baby Alistair
All our love forever & always Goodnight & God Bless love your Mummy & Daddy xxxxxxxx
Alistair Robert Dale Cook was born on Thursday 3rd January 2008. We knew we were having a baby boy &
had picked the name Alistair a few months before his middle names Robert was after his great-grandad
who got to see baby Alistair for the first time at his 80th birthday party (6/1/08) & Dale after my
brother Alistair's Uncle Dale. Alistair was due on 5th January & I was induced due to high blood
pressure & traces of protein in my water. Which i do think could be something to do with the death
of my son Alistair.
My pregnancy had being fine just a bit of morning sickness but nothing to worry about. Right up
until about 35 weeks at this point nothing seemed wrong but I was feeling quite dizzy & on Monday of
that week I phoned Ben to pick me up from work as I wasn't feeling well at all , when I got home I
rung the hospital number I had being given & spoke to a midwife. She was very helpful & as I was
going for an appointment to see my Midwife the next day I thought I may as well hang on as Alistair
was still very active & nothing seemed wrong. I just honestly thought it was me overdoing it. The
next day I was feeling a little better & went to see the midwife I explained the situation & as my
water sample was fine and my blood pressure hadn't changed, Alistair's heart beat & movements were
fine everything seemed ok. I decided it would be best for me to leave work a week earlier than I had
planned & try to rest as much as possible so I left work at 36 weeks instead of 37 I wanted to leave
work the latest I could so I would have more time at home afterwards. at 37 weeks the midwife did a
home visit to talk to us about labour when she measured me I was still measuring for 35 weeks my
blood pressure & water sample were fine she wanted to see me in 9 days time to make sure everything
was ok. At almost 39 weeks I went to see the midwife again my blood pressure was ok but she hadn't
checked my water sample. I was still measuring 35 weeks so she rang the hospital to see if they
could book an appointment for a growth scan. she couldn't get through so she rang me back when I got
home she managed to get an appointment for the ANDU for Wednesday 2nd January (In my opinion they
should of got me in a lot earlier) by now my water sample was showing Protein in it & my blood
pressure had now rocketed up to 143/106. Alistair was now being monitored & I was given cold orange
juice to get him moving. I was then told that my signs were looking towards pre-eclampsia & they
wanted me in for Induction of Labour that evening. I was given the gel in the evening & first thing
Thursday morning Alistair arrived at 1:06pm weighing 5 pounds 11oz (small we think due to him not
growing)
Alistair was fine when he was born, I stayed in hospital overnight due to high blood pressure as
they still needed to monitor me & we went home at 1:30pm the next day. Alistair was a happy baby &
everything seemed fine he had a bit of jaundice & a sticky eye but apart from that he was ok. Until
day 10 came & he got weighed (the first time he'd been weighed from birth) & he only weighed 4pounds
8oz he'd lost over 1 pound the midwife referred us to the doctors who reassured us everything was
fine but wanted to see him Friday. Friday came a day I was dreading as it was Ben's first day back
at work but no one could have prepared me for the events that would happen that day. Alistair woke
up about 8ish I had fed him & then changed him gave him a cuddle then put him in his mosses basket &
carried him downstairs & put the moses basket on the sofa. I went into the adjoining kitchen & was
washing up & making myself some breakfast. There was a knock on the door it was the midwife she had
come to weigh baby Alistair I took Alistair out of the moses basket, undressed him & passed him to
the midwife to put him on the scales he was still weighing 4 pounds 8oz. The midwife was concerned
so she passed Alistair back to me & rung the doctors to make an earlier appointment. As I was
dressing Alistair we both noticed that something wasn't right Alistair was Blue & finding it
difficult to breath & wasn't responding. The midwife called 999 & asked for an ambulance. Ben who
I’d left in bed as it was his first day back at work (Ben is a chef so he starts at 1:30 &
finishes late) Woke up to me screaming his name I told Ben to get dressed quickly & come downstairs
Ben got Alistair a blanket to keep him warm as he felt really cold & I passed Alistair to Ben & went
to get dressed myself. The midwife started doing CPR on Alistair he wasn't unconscious she just
wanted to help him breathe the ambulance came & they got Alistair into the ambulance & we got to A&E
there was a whole team waiting as the midwife had rung ahead. Alistair was finally made stable after
having 5 shots of adrenalin & was transferred to LGI PICU. They had taken lots of tests & at about
9:30 they took Alistair for a Brain Scan They took me & Ben into a room & told us that Alistair had
suffered severe Brain damage due to lack of oxygen & they gave him half a % chance of surviving they
then brought our parents in & Doctor gave us 2 choices we could turn off Alistair's machine & hope
for the best but the doctor though he would die within 24 hours or we could let him go with us
surrounded by the people who loved him so we decided we couldn't let him suffer any more so we got
all our families to come my mum drove a 3 & half hour round trip to get my Brothers & Sister & Ben's
dad did the same to get Ben's brother his Godparent's John, Emma & Matty came & we had Alistair
Baptised in Hospital & then everyone said there goodbyes & left the room Alistair was given a highly
dosed sedative & was taken off the machine & was left to go to sleep in the arms of his loving Mummy
& Daddy. Defiantly the worst day of all of our lives afterwards I cuddled Alistair for a few hours
also My mum & Ben's mum had a cuddle too me & my mum (Alistair's grandma) Painted Alistair’s hands
& feet & washed Alistair for the last time.
We have found out that Alistair died of a Pulmonary Herrorrhage (Bleeding in the lungs) but we are
still waiting to find out why this happened. They have now being sent to a specialist doctor in
Birmingham to try & find WHY this happened so hopefully in a couple of weeks we should know more.
Rest In Peace darling love you Always Mummy & Daddy xxxxxxxx
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sending you lots of love and hugs for christmas xxxxxxx
THIS TRIBUTE IS FOR FRIDAY BUSY DAY FOR ME
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
If I Knew
If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.
There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance to say
our "Anything I can do?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,
That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear
Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
thinking of you and your family always
An eternal memory of a special angel!
Today it would be wonderful
to see you play or smile
but heaven lent you to this world
for just a little while
and in that short but precious time
you brought along much love
and all that love is with you now
in heaven up above
your leaving caused so many tears
and such a lot of pain
but god needed one more angel
so he took you back again
sorry i havnt been on in a while i am having a bad time at the moment but you and your family are always in my thoughts loads of love always Emma(kyle hares mummy) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
hello gorgeous angel
i am so so sorry i have not been on in ages i know its no excuse but as you will know there as been lots going on, being pregnant is proving quite difficult i keep getting ill, i have also been working full time when not ill and at the moment my emotions are all over the place with kaydens birthday just been and gone and his anniversary today so im having a bit of a tough time but you and your family are always in my thought and i will never ever forget about you no matter how long it takes me to get on i will always come back on at some point to say hello and thinking about you. i send all my love always to you and your wonderful family and say a very much appreciated thank you for any messages left for kayden i hope you are all having a wonderful time up there in heaven love always xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
once again thank you for any messages and support
WORDS OF AN ANGEL
May the angels keep you till morning.
May they guide you through the night.
May they comfort all your sorrows.
May they help you win the fight.
May they keep watch on your soul.
May they show you better ways.
May they guard you while you're sleeping.
May they see you through your days.
May they show you new hopes.
May they still your every doubt.
May they calm your every fear.
May they hear you when you shout.
May the angels keep you til morning.
More than this I cannot pray.
And if the angels ever fail you.
Then may God be there that day.
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love always paula (kayden gelders mummy)
Love to you angelxxxx
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When God calls little children
To dwell with Him above,
We mortals sometimes question
The wisdom of His love.
For no heartache compares
With the death of one small child
Who does so much to make our world
Seem wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
The aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
Before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them
And so He takes but few
To make the land of heaven
More beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult,
Still somehow we must try.
The saddest word that mankind knows
Will always be 'goodbye'.
So when a little child departs,
We who are left behind
Must realize God loves children
Angels are hard to find.
When God calls little children
To dwell with Him above,
We mortals sometimes question
The wisdom of His love.
For no heartache compares
With the death of one small child
Who does so much to make our world
Seem wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
The aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
Before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them
And so He takes but few
To make the land of heaven
More beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult,
Still somehow we must try.
The saddest word that mankind knows
Will always be 'goodbye'.
So when a little child departs,
We who are left behind
Must realize God loves children
Angels are hard to find.
A SPECIAL FRIEND X
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If u love me as a friend u'll read the whole thing. What would you do if for every moment you were truly happy there would be 10 moments of sadness? What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt? So, I just wanted to say, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life. I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you. Send this to all your friends, no matter how often you talk, or how close you are, and send it to the person who sent it to you. Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them, and tell new friends you never will. Remember, everyone needs a friend. dont ever leave the one u love for the one u like, because the one u like will leave u for the one they love.
If you wake up in a red room with no windows and doors, DON'T panic.. you're just in my heart!!! Send this to all the friends you want to keep forever...
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GOODNIGHT SWEETHEART
A bright star for God's collection
A lovely angel of pure perfection
A life on earth not meant to be
No tears or smiles for all to see
Hearts are broken, split in two
But angel we will always love you~
Now the day has ended angel
And I have to say 'Goodnight,
it's time for you to rest your wings'.
Sweet dreams.
God bless.
Sleep tight.
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Broken hearts and shattered dreams,
Life torn apart at its seams.
Hearts and minds in pain and sorrow,
Missing you more, today, tomorrow.
Time can't heal and words won't mend,
The loss we feel at this sad end.
However long 'till we meet again,
You'll be remembered , but until then,
We wait with hope within in our hearts,
We'll be together, no more to part.
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A SPECIAL HEART FOR ALL SPECIAL ANGELS…
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Gone are the days we used to share,
But in our hearts you are always there,
The gates of memory will never close,
We miss you more than anyone knows,
With tender love and deep regret,
We who love you will never forget.
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A SPECIAL FRIEND X
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If u love me as a friend u'll read the whole thing. What would you do if for every moment you were truly happy there would be 10 moments of sadness? What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt? So, I just wanted to say, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life. I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you. Send this to all your friends, no matter how often you talk, or how close you are, and send it to the person who sent it to you. Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them, and tell new friends you never will. Remember, everyone needs a friend. dont ever leave the one u love for the one u like, because the one u like will leave u for the one they love.
If you wake up in a red room with no windows and doors, DON'T panic.. you're just in my heart!!! Send this to all the friends you want to keep forever...
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Thankyou so much for all the support on kaydens site im just so sorry I don’t get on as often now but still struggling on with the bump, really tired and keep getting poorly so once again so sorry thinking about you all all the time though and sending my love always xxxxxxxxxxx
A SPECIAL FRIEND X
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If u love me as a friend u'll read the whole thing. What would you do if for every moment you were truly happy there would be 10 moments of sadness? What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt? So, I just wanted to say, even if I never talk to you again in my life, you are special to me and you have made a difference in my life. I look up to you, respect you, and truly cherish you. Send this to all your friends, no matter how often you talk, or how close you are, and send it to the person who sent it to you. Let old friends know you haven't forgotten them, and tell new friends you never will. Remember, everyone needs a friend. dont ever leave the one u love for the one u like, because the one u like will leave u for the one they love.
If you wake up in a red room with no windows and doors, DON'T panic.. you're just in my heart!!! Send this to all the friends you want to keep forever...
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